Editing with a spouse is like wallpapering with a spouse.

[charisstoma]

It's said that if you can wallpaper with your spouse and still love them at the end then you've a strong marriage.

From Facebook. Posted circa 7-13-2014


Amanda Palmer with Neil Gaiman in New York, NY
20 hrs · Edited ·
this man agreed to lock himself up in a room with me and my publisher-book-editor emily griffin for a 72-hour book edit marathon. he edited the FUCK out of my book. and re-wrote some of the parts where he didn't sound like him.
he deserves a goddamn medal. if you're married to a writer, this process is an interesting test of your marriage. he got very passionate, and somewhat frustrated with me, at certain points.
highlights include.
while yelling at me:
"I'M NOT YELLING AT YOU. I'M JUST YELLING. AND YOU'RE THERE".
while remarking on our disagreement about the room temperature:
"THE AIR CONDITIONER IS ON AND YOU'RE STILL HOT"
me: *puffs up with glee and pride that this was delivered as a clever compliment.*
him: *blank stare*
while losing his patience with my reluctance to accept his cut:
"I'M REALLY GOOD AT THIS. I WIN AWARDS."
one thing is for sure. neil sure can edit the fuck out of a book. I am more grateful than I can express. what a man.
I have 48 more hours to turn the book in. after that, to the copy editor.
photo by emily.

Comments

[frogs_of_war]

For me it comes in phases, sometimes I can finish a table and benches with my husband or reupholster a couch. Sometimes we can't even cook together. He poured some of the sauce I was making into the meat son Saturday which made me upset because how was I supposed to replicate it with part gone before I perfected it. But that was silly, so I let it go. And the chicken, which is normally kind of chewy when it's put in the pan frozen, was delicious and tender. So I guess he knew what he was about.

I've edited my mother's poem, so I understand a bit of this.

[charisstoma.livejournal.com]

I found them delightful as a couple. Humor in dealings with events that could break a relationship helps.